“It’s a brothel.” That makes me laugh. The past 24 hours have been especially unfunny. The office where I found a wonderful therapist is closing. I can continue to see her but the distance will be 30 miles each way and I’ll have to pay out of pocket. The collapse of Medicare is well underway. And the husband may have dementia. It was one thing if he was just an asshole, now it appears to be so much worse with no hope of coaxing him to get tested. He is defiant and he thinks I’m crazy. I am a madwoman, but that’s something completely different. Thank you for listening. Ima go make art 🖼️
Best advice based on experience of severe illness in a man. If he is indeed in need of care, you must take control and get it to happen. There has to be leverage and agreement somewhere. He doesn’t just get to exist on his adgenda in a shared house. I don’t know the behavior he shows however I wouldn’t trust a true dementia patient to feed or shop for themselves, use a stove or knives. If some one needs care you just have to make sure they get it. The testing is inconclusive and then you’re in the full blown problem. The best option is a nursing home when needed. There are sincerely little to no meds to help. Only symptomatic help when they do.
I had awful choices when my late husband became too ill to stay at home. He was not a dementia patient but at 6’3” with lung disability and overweight, passing from lung disease. I couldn’t assist him without hurting myself when he became too weak to get up or walk. Be prepared since you seem dedicated to looking after him. Applause but get yourself readied with helpers both financial and institutial. Find out what he may be offered through any VA if he was in the service or Medicare, Medicare.
You do not do this alone. Hear?
This is what community is for. It must be sorted out though what the problem is. He doesn’t get to hide it. He doesn’t get a choice in this question. If he doesn’t have dementia, he needs to let you have the confidence he does not. Prove it to you. Maybe he like the challenge? Prove you crazy? Seems likely he’d jump at the chance.
Medicine is in horrid trouble. Do what you must to hang on to someone you like. ❤️ Breathe ever once and again.
"Osama bin Moron" 🎯👍 (I wonder if the 'Trump Bible' folks will ever see what is going on!🤪)
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Hey! 👋 was getting ready to send out the dogs for you. Nice to hear from you. Crazy times. Take a ride in my plane?😉
“It’s a brothel.” That makes me laugh. The past 24 hours have been especially unfunny. The office where I found a wonderful therapist is closing. I can continue to see her but the distance will be 30 miles each way and I’ll have to pay out of pocket. The collapse of Medicare is well underway. And the husband may have dementia. It was one thing if he was just an asshole, now it appears to be so much worse with no hope of coaxing him to get tested. He is defiant and he thinks I’m crazy. I am a madwoman, but that’s something completely different. Thank you for listening. Ima go make art 🖼️
Best advice based on experience of severe illness in a man. If he is indeed in need of care, you must take control and get it to happen. There has to be leverage and agreement somewhere. He doesn’t just get to exist on his adgenda in a shared house. I don’t know the behavior he shows however I wouldn’t trust a true dementia patient to feed or shop for themselves, use a stove or knives. If some one needs care you just have to make sure they get it. The testing is inconclusive and then you’re in the full blown problem. The best option is a nursing home when needed. There are sincerely little to no meds to help. Only symptomatic help when they do.
I had awful choices when my late husband became too ill to stay at home. He was not a dementia patient but at 6’3” with lung disability and overweight, passing from lung disease. I couldn’t assist him without hurting myself when he became too weak to get up or walk. Be prepared since you seem dedicated to looking after him. Applause but get yourself readied with helpers both financial and institutial. Find out what he may be offered through any VA if he was in the service or Medicare, Medicare.
You do not do this alone. Hear?
This is what community is for. It must be sorted out though what the problem is. He doesn’t get to hide it. He doesn’t get a choice in this question. If he doesn’t have dementia, he needs to let you have the confidence he does not. Prove it to you. Maybe he like the challenge? Prove you crazy? Seems likely he’d jump at the chance.
Medicine is in horrid trouble. Do what you must to hang on to someone you like. ❤️ Breathe ever once and again.
Yes. This is what my therapist recommended. I’m going to speak (again) to our daughters. They must help me. Thank you.
I’m here. Most welcome. Don’t mention. You know. I’m just reminding.❤️